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Visionary Health Solutions - New Name & Services: Anger Management, Visionary Leadership Coaching & Team Building

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In the year since my last post, a lot has changed - we have a new name, Visionary Health Solutions, and new services. In addition to Wellness, Stress Management and Personal Development Seminars for medical and other companies, our newest "Health Solutions" include Anger Management 1:1 coaching and classes; Team Building and Group Coaching sessions; and individual Leadership and Personal Coaching for executives and other leaders, and for other employees or private persons wanting to move forward or being mandated to get help in their personal or professional lives. Visit us at www.VisionaryHealthSolutions.com

Our new "Visionary" services incorporate cutting-edge techniques that can have profound effects. We help clients build and envision successful futures while helping them get "unstuck" and unearth blocks they have to getting there, and then move them toward their goals. Have you tried "The Secret" and visualized your future but are still stuck here? Then you need "The Secret" to "The Secret" - unlocking your subconscious negative beliefs that keep you trapped. And that's what we provide in our coaching sessions and seminars - processes that can flip around sometimes lifelong struggles that work more quickly and deeply than traditional methods. 

I explain more in this "Reverse Your Negative Beliefs 'Blueprint' "
6 minute video. Stay tuned for more on these subjects! 

  

Congress Gets Serious About Stress and Mindfulness

Listen to this inspiring YOUTUBE video I found regarding mindfulness. In a Congressional hearing, Rep. Tim Ryan (D-OH) asks Secretary of Health and Human Services Kathleen Sebelius about stress reduction via mindfulness, and how it can help our nation.  What's this about?

Stress management requires being mindful, or self aware in a given moment.  For example, if I'm feeling strong anger, rather than reacting and yelling, I might ask, "What am I feeling right now?  What's going on in my body?"  I might answer, "I'm really feeling hurt under the anger, and my heart is pounding."  So to slow the pounding and feel the hurt rather than yell, I breathe deeply for 10 minutes.  Being mindful helped me create a workable stress management strategy.  Now I'm calmer, I feel better physically, and I prevented an argument.   

Mindfulness meditation is an excellent tool to learn self-awareness - and to manage stress.  It helps with anger management, reducing violence, ameliorating pain, curbing compulsive/addictive behaviors, and more - areas now getting national attention.  So next time I'm upset and want to soothe myself with a donut, I might instead become aware that I'm really feeling disappointed and take a walk instead.

To do it:  Sit quietly.  Close your eyes.  Take deep breaths.  Become aware of your breath, your emotions, your body, by asking, "How am I experiencing myself?" For example, ask, "What emotion am I feeling right now?"  Or, "Where is there tension in my body?"  Then sit with that awareness.  Ask again:  "What emotion am I feeling now?"  A new one may rise up into your awareness.  Do this for 5-10 minutes. 

With practice you'll really get to know yourself well.  Becoming aware of your emotions is important, especially if this is difficult for you.  Why is it important?  Until you know how you truly feel about something, you won't change it.  Emotion is a much better motivator than denial. 

Disruptive Behavior - Owning Your Anger

 

"Disruptive Behavior" is the 2009 buzz word by The Joint Commission with their new Leadership Standard LD.03.01.01 mandating hospitals to address this issue head on.  A major hallmark of a disruptive individual is an angry outburst, often at the most inopportune times - in front of colleagues, patients, and their family members.  The "classic" profile of disruptive physicians are male surgeons who yell in the operating room, but they are by no means the only doctors who may engage in this behavior.  In fact nurses and other health professionals also project their anger outwardly.  Often such individuals have difficulty taking responsibility for their behavior.  Instead they blame their anger on others, such as laboratory personnel who produce late test results.  While it's true that poorly functioning departments or hospital systems can be very frustrating, screaming at those who work in them is not the answer. 

If you are quick to respond with anger in frustrating situations, especially if it happens more than you - or others - would like, the problem may also lie within you.  When I first saw the above cartoon, I  thought Lucy's response to "Why are you always yelling at me?" might be, "Because you're an idiot!"  To my surprise, she took responsibility for her yelling.  That is the start of the healing process for those who can't control their anger.  Chronically angry people may blame others for everything and see themselves as right.  They can't see how their outbursts exacerbate their problems.  They don't do this on purpose.  They really believe they're not at fault. 

This topic can take up many blog posts.  As a first step, ask yourself:  "How well do I handle my anger?  Does it handle me?  Do I feel powerless to control it?  Does it get in my way at work?  Is it affecting my relationships?"  If you answer yes, consider that you could possibly use some help.  The first step is owning the fact that this area of your life isn't working and is causing you pain.  Give it some thought, and stay tuned for more on this.  

Perfectionism and Medical Errors: What's the Connection?

  After my last post on “Perfectionism:  An Unacknowledged Source of Stress” (below), I was asked to conduct Grand Rounds on this topic.  (Having only been a blog post, the stress of creating a perfect seminar on perfectionism was great.)  At its end, a participant told me it was a great talk, as it was a topic never discussed anywhere in medicine – an arena in which everyone is expected to be perfect.  This expectation attracts perfectionists into medicine, which in turn creates perfectionistic medical leaders who train new doctors to be perfect.  
    The low self-esteem (and fear of making errors) that underlies perfectionism can ironically be transformed into arrogance – the flip side of the same coin – when compounded by the rigors of medical training and sometimes accompanying demanding, highly critical clinical trainers.  Initially fearful residents who drive themselves very hard into becoming highly skilled practitioners, may eventually find themselves saying, “Me?  Make a mistake?  I DON’T MAKE MISTAKES!  I’M PERFECT!”  This creates a closing off to constructive criticism and feedback from others.
    My seminar discussion went onto that track.  An attending shared he had mistakenly mixed up medication orders for two patients.  A resident realized it, and kindly said:  “Dr. Smith (name changed), in looking at these two patient records I think there may be a mistake in your medication orders you might want to look at.”  Dr. Smith was very grateful to this resident.  She averted a possible disaster.  He was humbled by this and saw that despite his high skill level he was still capable of making medical errors.  He was aware of his humanism and imperfection.  
    He further shared stories of famous doctors, experts in their fields, who write the teaching manuals, create the training videos – and who still make mistakes and get sued for malpractice.  He said, “Wouldn’t it be great, if when a nurse says to such a doctor, ‘Doctor, please take a second look at the paperwork, as I believe you may be about to remove the wrong organ,’ that physician could respond with, ‘Thank God you noticed!’ vs. ‘Don’t question my authority!’?”   
    Dr. Smith's point was that BECAUSE no one is perfect, it’s vital for medical team members to stay humble and open to receiving constructive feedback from each other no matter what their status – AND to feel safe in giving it.  My point is the cure for perfectionism is to work on raising your self-esteem.   These two things work together.  True self-respect – vs. arrogance – creates a comfort level with one’s own imperfections and an openness to admit mistakes.  It also creates respect for others – a vital need for a functioning medical team that ultimately results in fewer errors and optimizes patient care.

Perfectionism: An Unacknowledged Source of Stress

   As a very smart child, I typically got 100%'s on school tests.  With the occasional 98% came my mother's (may she rest in peace) inevitable question:  "What happened to the other 2 points?"  Excellence, I was taught, would not do - it had to be perfect.  As an adult, a woman I know once suggested I strive for 75% accomplishment in my life's tasks.  I looked at her as if she had five heads.  75%?  At least 90% was necessary.  A third wise woman later told me perfectionism is an illusion - it does not exist.  I wanted to throttle her.  After a lifetime of striving for perfection, and all the stress, time and energy this entailed, I was angry at and disappointed by the thought that it was an impossibility to achieve.

If you had a similar upbringing, perhaps you know of this drive to be perfect.  What you may not realize is that what may underlie it is low self-esteem.  Perfectionism is an unconscious attempt to overcompensate for feeling bad about yourself.  It's a way to get external validation from the world.  If you look good, sound eloquent, achieve, save others, etc., you MUST be valuable.  If not you're not, and you've somehow failed.  We create high standards for ourselves and thereby in others.  This causes stress within us and in those close to us.  It strains our relationships.  No one can live up to such standards.  And when we focus on what's wrong vs. on what's right in us, it only makes us feel worse about ourselves.

The other day I had an epiphany.  Looking around my apartment, I wondered what life would be like if I no longer existed.  My home and the things in it suddenly seemed empty.  My existence had made them what they were.  In that moment I had a deep knowing that I mattered.  I was completely unique and left my own imprint on the universe.  I had value - intrinsic value, not based on grades or what I achieved.  My stress level suddenly decreased.  The pressure was off.  I was perfectly acceptable AS I WAS.  I was ecstatic!  What a relief!!